Geeky women get a bad rap in popular culture. Spectacled, un made-up and socially awkward, the stereotypical geek is not even considered as a potential partner by a lot of men.
I’m going to attempt to lay out ten of my own reasons for being in a relationship with someone as geeky as me. I could lay out literally hundreds of reasons, but since time is at a premium these days, I’ll truncate my list to ten. 😀
#10: No shitstorms about dress sense
She doesn’t give a flying flip what I wear. She won’t give me grief about going to the dinner in a pair of jeans that look like I’ve had them forever. She does the same thing, after all!
This is a major benefit for me because my sense of dress is…ah…a bit challenged at the best of times.
#9: She “gets” it
She understands the pain that a lack of bandwidth can cause. She knows how annoying a bug can be. When I rant about the abomination that Network Address Translation is, she doesn’t react as though I’m speaking Swahili.
#8: Broken nails are not national emergencies
The last time my sister broke a nail, she turned the whole frigging house upside down.
She moaned about how horrible she’d look at her upcoming presentation.
She cursed the f*****g idiot (me) who caused the unlikely sequence of events to occur.
It is a major relief to simply hear “Whoops, I think I broke a nail. Meh. So what were you saying?”
#7: She’s intelligent
Of course, anyone can be intelligent, but the geeky types are almost always so.
The ability to have an intelligent conversation about pretty much anything under the sun is a truly amazing benefit. I don’t have to restrict my conversations to a handful of topics at all. She’s always up for a good discussion.
#6: She doesn’t play immature games
I’m talking about mind-games, not Dungeons and Dragons.
Being more than a little socially awkward, she has spent her college years actually learning how to be an engineer (rather than learning how to manipulate people), and is a straightforward person with little use for silly psychological tricks. I know I can trust her implicitly.
#5: She is loyal
Being a fiercely loyal person myself, this is something I really appreciate. It’s great to have a partner you know is loyal. Makes it that much easier to love her and be a support for her.
#4: She accepts me for what I am
She doesn’t care for the macho man image. She doesn’t want me to be a knight in shining armor. She doesn’t expect me to conform to the social image of being a “real man”, any more than she conforms to the social image of a woman herself.
For a pro-feminist like me, this benefit cannot be emphasized enough. I detest the whole idea of chivalry and all the other outdated claptrap that comes along with that. She detests it as much as I.
#3: She’s a passionate, dynamic person
Passionate women are a HUGE rarity in India. Mostly, you just see these zombies weighted down by a patriarchal upbringing, their ambitions revolving around marriage and family.
This is not exactly their fault, but the fact is that I find passionless people rather unattractive.
A’s own love for technology, and her ambition give her a dynamism that causes me to do the male equivalent of going weak in the knees.
#2: She is confident and independent
Knowledge is power!
She may be socially awkward, but self-confidence is something she doesn’t lack at all. The ability to do amazing stuff with computers gives her a sparkling sheen of confidence and independence and boy, don’t I dig that.
#1: She knows how to be her own person
Years of being excluded from what the general population considers “mainstream” definitely help you keep your SELF intact.
I am amazed by her ability to compromise when necessary and yet not lose herself. This is one thing I will always, always admire, no matter what happens between us.
Love ya, A!