First off, I’d like to apologize for being less than involved on the blog over the last few days or so. I’ve been more than a little preoccupied with the formalities of the final placement process at my college, and the brainstorming and second-guessing has taken up quite a chunk of the free time I normally use for blogging and commenting on blogs.
Thankfully, most of it is now done and I am once again free to regale you guys with my vast reserves of wit and chocolaty charm! 😀
So, to the topic.
I’ve been euphoric these last couple of days.
Apart from landing in a job that I’d do for free, one of the great things that came out of the placements is that me and A are BOTH heading to work in the same city (i.e Bangalore) next year! We’re going to be in different firms, unfortunately, but just being in the same city solves so many problems.
Hopefully, we would now be able to focus on our careers a bit better, without getting into the all the uncertainty and bother of a long-term relationship.
Everything has been going great. And there lies the rub.
Last evening, my mother apparently caught A cruising Big Bazaar, treated her to an an impromptu lunch and had a long chat about her future plans and stuff. And she seems to have fallen deeper in love with A than I’ve ever been.
I knew something was weird the minute she called me up and told me to come pick her up at the mall. There was just something in her tone which caused alarm bells to start ringing in my mind. I stifled the feeling and dutifully did as she asked me to.
Our next conversation proved me right.
In the car
Mom: I still can’t believe you’re going to be in a job, N. Kids grow up so fast.
Mom: I think we should start looking for a good apartment in Bangalore, shouldn’t we?
Me: I dunno. The move is months away. Don’t you think it’s a bit too early to look for an apartment?
Mom: It’s never too early. The earlier we start, the better it is. The rents are ridiculous in that city. Do you remember when the third sister of your second cousin moved there and… *15 minutes of monologue*
Me: Okay, I get the idea! I’ll check the internet listings tonight! God!
Mom: Great. All I’m saying is, it’s better to start early. You’re an adult now, and you should get used to taking on new responsibilities.
Me: Alright, I — Wait. New responsibilities?
Mom: Yeah. A is moving to Bangalore too, right?
Me: Yes, but –
Mom: She’s such a nice girl, you know.
Me: Yeah, I know. But what did you mean by –
Mom: Every time I talk to her, I’m impressed. I think she’s perfect for you.
By this point, I have a pretty shrewd idea where this conversation is going and I don’t like it one bit.
Sure enough, it all comes out into the open five minutes later:
Mom: So when do you plan to propose to her?
Mom: Come on, sweetie! Look, your sister’s getting married next year. It would be so good if you too…
I spent the next half hour explaining that we had not decided to get married yet and I had no intention of getting engaged to be married right away either.
Just as I expected, she didn’t get it. Her reasoning was pretty simple and it boiled down to this:
a) I’ve seen the world; and
b) Girl’s don’t come much better than this so don’t even think about anyone else; therefore,
c) You must marry her the moment your career stabilizes.
I am like, wow.
We all hear horror stories about parents who don’t get on with the person you love/are married to.
What do you do with a parent who gets on far too well with your SO?
There’s no such entry in my manual of life.
What am I supposed to tell her?
She HAS seen the world. She HAS handled all kinds of people. I can’t say that she hasn’t.
This was just so unexpected that I have no idea what to think.
Maybe it shouldn’t have been unexpected.
I’ve never thought abut marriage so much in my entire life. I think half of my posts talk about marriage in some for or the other.
I am completely stumped by this situation!
For god’s sake, I don’t even know if I’m even right. I’m just a twenty-one year old guy with a computer engineering degree. Such deep philosophical questions do NOT come into my horizon! I never learnt stuff like this.
Really have no idea what to think right now.